30 Sept 2012

Suicide Prevention - Enduringmind - Counselling in Twickenham

Bearing in mind we have just past the WHO World Suicide Prevention Day I wonder if there are any counsellors or clients for that matter who have recently experienced despair in themselves or others who wish to end their lives. 

I have also been reflecting on the man, Tony Nicklinson, who had 'locked-in syndrome' who recently lost his court case but just gave up living recently. I wonder if we have the right as human beings to end our lives (sacred as they are), or indeed do we have the right to insist that those who suffer keep on living (given the sacred right to freewill). 

And what does this say about those people who appear at our clinics who are 'at risk' of suicide. Must we be motivated to save them, or assist them in their act of ultimate withdrawal and freedom. if you wish to contribute to this comment here or on my website at:

29 Sept 2012


Dirty Little
Savages




            We were little children then.

Innocent as newborn lambs, wild with mischief and giddy as the day is long. Our days spent roaming the secret hinterlands of childhood. Catching a glance of sun on our backs, as if we might flare up in moments. Such delicate, flimsy creatures and ripe for the picking like the scorched red berries of autumn.
Our youth so fleeting, it hurt.
By the end of summer we were gone in a blaze of fury and ephemeral colour.
           
Back then, was a time of tall tales and high spirits.
We were drunk on thin air – shrill as skylarks soaring above the clouds; trapped in a buzz of heady excitement. Newly liberated by the school vacations, we stripped bare to the waist; exposing our pale, unblemished bodies to the fierce sun. Wandering over moor and meadow: thrashing through the corn stalks, tramping over the scorched earth and the knot of withered heather.

We were masters of our own fate; rambling far and wide without a care in the world. It was 1976: the middle of a heat wave. Temperatures soared to 39˚ C. On those listless sultry days we would canals. We thought nothing of the risks to life and limb. Until that is, the girl with the blood-spattered dress stumbled into town.

She took us by surprise, alighting without warning. Her jagged mouth in a silent scream; face streaked with terror. All eyes turned on the intruder, as if she were a trick of the light or an apparition that just walked out of the heat haze.
            And then as she passed down the cobbled-stone streets between the rows of terraced houses and derelict mills, they dismissed her as if she had never existed. Children went dashing in and out of the burst standpipes as the sun stood over us in blinding miasma. Water penumbras obscuring our view under a spray of multi-coloured rainbows. For awhile, no one dared move, until some kid bowled into her, screaming blue murder.

His shriek shattering those halcyon days of summer forever.

There would be no peace in our rural idyll again. No façade of childlike innocence. Only the fleeting memory of her skulking through the screaming wake of children; dressed in a white linen smock. She had a fine fleece of hair, crisp blue eyes and pale lush lips. But most folk only saw the blood and simply stood there staring. Until she wandered over the brim of Ribbelsthwaite Hill and slipped out of sight.
Not long after she was taken into care. Abandoned into the fostering embrace of Elsie Branning the old spinster who took up residence near Gartside’s Mill. At first, knowledge of the girl set tongues aflame in the village. Then, she attracted a whirlwind of notoriety throughout the Dales. And without fuss or fanfare we marched on down to her shop, hands and faces pressed up to the windows, purveying the odd collection of dressmaker’s dolls and naked oriental mannequins. Each one with an eerie resemblance to a wax-dipped woman that chilled me to the bone.

I recall we spent our afternoons crowding into the hidden recesses of her shop, captivated by the lure of the waxen-faced doll. And then there was the woman herself – a rare oddity – this middle-class spinster, regally attired in her ornate turban and silk kimono. Made all the more exotic, by her eccentric mannerisms and brooding charm.

Old Elsie Branning and her guest soon became talk of the town.

On days when business was slow, she retired into her dressmaker’s workshop to make the same dress she had been working for twenty years – a white-lace wedding dress she would never wear, having lost her husband to-be in the War.

Counselling in Twickenham - enduringmind


If I could go through life as if it were a path of self-discovery I'd be a happy man. I'm a father now and most of my delight and pleasure comes from seeing the world through the eyes of my twin boys - Gabriel and Castor. The world from their perspective is one that was familiar to me as a child - filled with a sense of awe, mystery and wonder.


As a counsellor I am often looking for inspiration from my children to discover a new way of communicating, reflecting or seeing the world.